For many of us a new year is a symbol of new beginnings. New goals, new ambitions, new blessings, new everything. By some sort of miracle, we expect a complete overhaul of whatever the previous year was. First thing first, don’t be sad that it’s a new year and you’re still you. Sure you can recite the age old mantra of ‘New year, New Me,’ and you can change for the better certainly but don’t forget that change is a process.
In order to change something, whether about yourself or your situation you must identify the ‘why?’ Why must you change anything? To understand this, you must couple it with another why. Why is this situation the way it is?
For many things we must change about ourselves we will realise that the why in question is usually based on our behavioural traits. For our situations however, we shall find that there are a great many things that are out of our control and the only thing we can do is respect the process as we try to facilitate change.
Respecting the process sounds easy, it’s not. It sounds like it might be fun, it’s not always. If you’re anything like me (a curious mind and an overthinker) you’ll find yourself asking the question why a whole lot. I’ll let you in on a little secret though, it gets easier to answer the whys when you understand two things.
The first being that you’re responsible for your emotions, and the second that you’re responsible for your actions (in other words how you respond to things). So rather than just asking yourself why? Ask ‘Why do I feel this way about this?’ This in turn helps you react to whatever the situation is accordingly.
When you realise that the action required to change yourself into the ‘new you’ rests solely on your shoulders and that whatever you feel with regards to that change is your responsibility, then you can begin the real work of change and deal with the question of ‘how?.’
How do I achieve the change I seek?
It is vital to remember, however, that it’s unlikely that you’ll get all the answers you seek when you want them. In order to change you might have to do quite a lot of unlearning, but you’ll be one step closer when you start to ask the right questions.
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