For the longest time I’ve had issues with letting go. I am one of those people that will bottle things up and let them gnaw at me until my bottle gets full and spills over. (This usually gives way to super venting).
Through various interactions I have realised that I need to master the art of Letting Go. This isn’t a “How-to-Forgive” blog post. On the contrary, this relates more to how to let go after you’ve forgiven and how to move on.
To be honest I haven’t mastered that yet. Its hard to keep distracted when you’re hurting about something but talking it out helps. I’m not talking about having a gossip session with your girls or mitching (or the female equivalent) about whatever it is or whoever it is that has ticked you off so royally. I mean something more constructive.
Call up whoever it is that has wronged you (if you can). Set up an appointment or whatever it is you have to do to gain an audience with them. Then proceed to get things off your chest.
Lets face it you can try whatever method to get over it, but without some sort of closure or explanation of their actions (even though their explanation might not make sense) you never really will.
At the end of each year a lot of people take time to make resolutions and take stock of their lives, and many enter the New Year screaming “New Year, New Me”. Few realise that they actually have to deal with some of their problems in order to evolve.
Think of it this way, when you’re cleaning a room and keep sweeping the dirt under the rug at some point the dirt under the rug will start to seep through and you can only hide that bump in the rug for so long.
Sometimes, facing people and talking it out can be ugly. That, however, shouldn’t be the reason why you should ignore your need for inner peace. Life is TOO short to stay stuck on UGLY!!
Most of the time we worry about what the other person will think about us and our actions but here’s the thing really, what they think about you is not your problem. You need to look out for you.
Resentment is toxic and super hazardous when its not dealt with. Sometimes you just have to go all the way and severe the ties to the other person and though it may feel like you’re cutting of a limb when you look back after a year or too you’l realise that you did yourself a favour.
Sometimes, though we may never realise this, WE are toxic for others. We need to be open to the idea that people will every now and then want to cut their ties with us and learn to let go of that. Everything and everyone has its season and we always need to be aware of this.
We often get consumed by hatred, resentment and dare I say SELF PITY and refuse to let go of the ugly, forgetting that staying stuck on ugly makes us ugly. It weighs down our hearts and makes us forget to care and pay attention to what we do have.
Take a moment this year to appreciate what you do have and strive to let go of what you need to. I’m not saying it’s going to be easy but it must be done.
I must say this before the month ends HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Be the best you you can be. =)