The second decade if your life really is one filled with defining decisions of your life. You have to deal with school, work, family and just the craziness of life in general. Problem is no one really hands you a manual when you reach that threshold and sometimes you just have to wing it.
Singleness VS Relationships
When you hit the 20s people expect you to get into “marital mode” (especially after you hit the 25 mark).
I’m only 20 with 2 years of experience and that pressure is ALREADY piling up in droves!! like really people, being single and 22 is no curse. I recently had a conversation with two girlfriends who thought it an abomination really that i’ve been single for two years. I was getting hit with statements like “you’re not getting any younger” and “at this age you NEED to be in a committed relationship”. . . and there i was thinking to myself need to be? Uuuuuh i don’t think so.
There’s nothing wrong with being single and taking your time. Singleness is an opportunity for you to work on bettering (is this a real word?) yourself. Besides i’m not gonna settle for any ol’ Jim and Jack just because people think its weird to be single.
(Yes i have standards and they are HIGH but NOT unrealistic)
Being single is cool. Its really a chance for me to grow as a person and get ready for the “long awaited” relationship.
More Money In Your Pocket
As a teenager you expect that the older you get the more money you have. While in a sense this is true you have to realise that 20x more money = 20x more responsibilities. Thou Shalt Spend wisely. Its never too late to learn how to manage your finances but the earlier the better.
Sometimes you have to let go of the past; of childhood friends abd lost loves.
The older you get the more you realise who your real friends are. As you set your priorites you will find that your real friends are those who build you up.
Prov 17:17 says,
“A friend is always loyal,
And a brother is born to help in times of need.”
Very few people want to spend their life without friends. It has been said that if you end up with five really close friends over the course of your life that you should consider yourself to be really blessed.
Also take time to think: What kind of friend are you? There is a vast difference between knowing someone well and being a true friend. The greatest evidence of genuine friendship is loyalty (see 1 Cor13:7) – being available to help in times of distress or personal struggle. Too many people are fair weather friends. They stick around when the friendship helps them and leave when they’re not getting anything out of the relationship. Think of your friends and assess your loyalty to them. Be the kind of true friend the Bible encourages.
“A loyal friend is a safe shelter, find one and you have found a tresure”-Sirach
“Friendship is precious, not only in the shade, but in the sunshine of life”- Thomas Jefferson
These are a few things to expect. Enjoy your youth (afterall you’re only young once) but you MUST be a responsible adult that the same time.
Overall keep your faith in God and DO YOU!!
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