Everyone has that one friend who starts to act funny as soon as they get into a relationship.
You might be thinking to yourself, “hey hang on i don’t have one of those!” well, Newsflash!! you might be that friend in question or you might come across one real soon.
Now don’t get me wrong, I have nothing against relationships and all that I believe that they are important aspects of life. What i have a problem with is friends who change.
Friends who forget you, friends who cease to care.
And now you might be thinking “Of course no one wants to be forgotten!!”
But before any of you get judgmental let me put this in context:
After being single for a while, a friend of mine (who i shall call *John for the sake of this narration) finally got a girlfriend (who we shall call *Mary).
John is the sort of guy who sucks at communication, generally. One of those who calls when its necessary. One who likes to keep himself to himself.
Not to say that he’s a loner or anything he does have SOME friends.
Anyway, when John got a girlfriend things changed. Frequent texts and phone calls dropped to the bare minimum and when he actually did communicate it was to ask for a favour.
Yhup!! Suddenly all anyone was good for was to be the Yellow Pages.
John: Can you send me the number for Debonairs Pizza?
Me: I’m fine thanks for asking. +0211 224398
John: Oh yeah sorry how are you?
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This is just one of the many examples of what conversations have become. Honestly iT’s appalling. He already sucked at communication but now even common courtesy has flown out the window!!! mxxxxm
Its not just the communication, hangouts are limited to church meetings, hugs turn into fist pounds and high fives (Maybe one day i should high five his face *random thought*), and every time anyone suggests a hangout its rejected with “we can’t hang out like that anymore.”
Anyway enough about John this isn’t supposed to be a personal attack. hehehe
My point is simply that a relationship shouldn’t tear you away from your friends (*terms and conditions apply).
Sure sometimes your friends, his/her friends might have chikwela and there might be need to create some sort of distance but i think you’ll agree with me that John’s case is a little on the extreme side.
I mean what happens if (God forbid) they break up and he has his heart broken? Who is he going to run to if he alienates everyone around him?
tsk tsk tsk
I don’t know about you lot but i absolutely hate being a friend of convenience. Having people only text you when they need help. I know we shouldn’t get tired of doing good works but really we shouldn’t get treated like doormats either!!!